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Megan Fox Transformers
your love will kill me
We know, we know: Now that youre single, all of your friends are clamouring for your fabulous company. But if youre hoping to meet someone special, which pals will prove most helpful—singl
e friends? Couples, perhaps? Or are you better off hitting the town alone? While any friend who makes you feel good about yourself belongs on your speed-dial, there are distinctive pros and cons to socialising with single people and married, says Karen Gail Lewis, author of With or Without a Man: Single Women Taking Control of Their Lives. And yes, there are even plusses to being the mysterious woman eating alone at the bar. So read on for the real deal about which method will work best for you.Single friends
Theyre always up for after-work margaritas. And it doesnt take much arm-twisting to drag a few mates to events for the unattached, whether thats a raging party at a dance club or a meet-and-greet in a church basement. Going out with single friends allows you to see life from a single perspective, says Joyce Morley-Ball, a relationship therapist. It lets you be reintroduced to the singles scene—with friends.
As long as you avoid jaded singletons, that is. Spending time with kill-joy pals who roll their eyes when you meet someone special will not only put a damper on your enthusiasm, it may actually cause you to blow off great prospective partners. Likewise, avoid any and all divorced friends who want to turn every outing into a bitch about the ex session, warns Wendy Allen, Ph.D., a relationship expert . Stick with the winners, the ones whove done work on themselves and have achieved some peace of mind.Dont assume hanging with couples will turn you into a third wheel. Divorced men and women need time to heal. Going out with couples can be a safe and fun thing to do, says Allen. And, bonus, when you go out with a couple that has a great relationship, you can observe what makes for a happy marriage, she adds.
Allen knows firsthand. Once she was back on the market, she spent a lot of time at the home of a happily married pair she knew. I learned a lot from them about how to handle conflict and show affection, she says. Maybe that made her more open to the romantic opportunity just around the corner—or, down the street, rather. I met a man who was working a couple of streets from this couples house, and we ended up getting married.
Susan Silver, a writer in Croydon, also believes hanging out with paired-up pals has its fringe benefits. Going out with couples is the best for meeting someone, because theyll look around for you with no self-interest, she notes. And men tend to have more guy contacts. (In fact, Silver went on several dates with buddies of her married male friends.) Besides, logging time at the home of a cosily married pair can ease your transition into the wide world of dating. I am very grateful to my couple friends for schlepping me along and inviting me to their homes for the weekend, she continues. The challenge, of course, is to not spend too many nights wedged on a sofa between two married, inhaling popcorn and watching Strictly come Dancing!It sounds crazy. It sounds terrifying. But there are some very good reasons to consider holding your head up high and hitting that party/book reading/open mic night alone. Such as? The biggest pro is you can do any activity you want—rather than stay home and miss it and wish you had gone, says Sherry Alpert, a divorced executive in Cambridge. We singles who dont have kids at home can use our freedom, which we have more of than couples because were not answering to anyone.
Plus, planning your own itinerary means youre more likely to stumble upon a like-minded partner. You have more control finding someone to your liking if you choose the type of setting or event, points out Lewis. And when you go alone, you are much more likely to meet others, since youre less reliant on your friends.
Thats true even when youre attending decidedly unromantic events. Alpert happened upon someone special at, oddly enough, an acquaintances mothers memorial service. I certainly didnt go to the memorial hoping to meet someone, she says. But we talked there, met each other afterward, and had a two-year relationship.
So go ahead, venture out at least once without that security blanket of friends. Ask for a table for one. Chances are you wont be dining alone for long.
Lisa Lombardi has contributed to Child, Redbook, Marie Claire and other national magazines.
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Sexy Megan Fox has a cold (Next Time On)
Megan Fox is so sexy in interviews.... How will Transformers 2 : Revenge of the Fallen ever get filmed? ...no one knows. (if you find the trailer .pleeease contact me:)
Next Time On: video opens with a On the next episode of... Vanity Plate.(i.e. Dragon Ball Z) Nonsensical and non-sequitur footage used as the Preview, followed by an abrupt cut to closing Vanity Plate that differs the other one used(i.e. Marvel Productions)
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